Why Venting Might Be Worse Than You Think

July 15, 2014

Career Advice


The phrase “get it off your chest” might not be the best advice anymore. According to a recent article by FastCompany, venting about work frustrations can actually make you angrier. At the very least, it only makes you feel less bad. It does not make you feel better.

It’s not hard to believe. After all, anger is a negative emotion. Oftentimes, the bad feelings may have dissipated if it weren’t for a good venting session that brought all those bad feelings to the surface again. Think about it. You’ve probably said, “I’m getting all worked up again!” after explaining a particularly frustrating experience to a spouse or a friend.

So it sounds like anger shouldn’t be faced with more anger. But what should you do when you’re frustrated? Learn anger management skills? Not exactly. It turns out we need to get better at conflict resolution skills and communication skills in general. If we can deal with issues in a calm and collected manner, we might not even get angry in the first place. Here are a few quick tips:

  • If you are angry, give yourself a cool-down period.
  • If the person you are dealing with is angry, don’t address the problem until they have cooled down.
  • When discussing an issue, use “I” more than “you.” For example, “I am angry,” not “You made me angry.”
  • Listen to both sides of the story.
  • Identify multiple solutions together.

 

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